The Cambridge Dictionary defines a friend as ‘a person who you know well and who you like a lot, but who is usually not a member of your family‘ or as ‘someone who is not your enemy and who you can trust‘. I would add to this definition ‘somebody who is responsible enough both for you and for himself’.
We all know these notions pretty well & when we build a sincere relation with somebody, we believe that it’s for ever, it’s the one to rely on no matter what, it’s this very Real friend we’ve been lucky to discover in our Chaotic world of hate, mistrust & deception. And our new friend seems to share our opinion. He assures us in his best intentions so passionately that there are no doubts about them. Time passes & here it comes…the moment when our dearest friend must reveal all his true human qualities, assistance & compassion. Well…in fact he does, but in his own way by a betrayal, egoism suddenly appearing from nowhere & unwish to provide us the help we need.
‘How might this happen?!’ we ask ourselves scrutinizing the same person, who has changed in a moment. There are no more friendly glances, smiles, appropriate manners. His speeches are full of poison or lies, his behaviour displays a total indifference… Oh, well…People are people. And living in the society where relationships of consumption is an ordinary thing it’s so difficult to get rid of this impact & to make a real affair based on mutual comprehension & honesty.
To be a real friend one must know to give without wishing anything back, without judging somebody’s behaviour, without interfering much into his destiny. To be a real friend means, first of all, to be…in the right place at the right time for others. Is a real friend myth? No, he isn’t. However this phenomenon is so unique that we should rename him in a Rare Friend. 🙂