Love Should Remain Courtois

Love is a gift of God. It’s far more complicated & elevated condition than we believe in, connected but not obsessed to the material world. Antoine de Furetiére in his famous Dictionaire (1690) asserts: “LOVE is passion of a soul that makes us love somebody or something. The Divine love must inflame us…” His wonderful definition makes ponder upon responsibility we take any time we fall in love, as we prepare ourselves to share with the one we’ve chosen a piece of Divine. And every time we say: ‘I love you’ this phrase should pass the radiance & joy of our heart. Any egoistic or materialistic idea hidden behind destroys the sense of love, deprives us of Divine & a chance to cultivate the true feeling.

In the Medieval time a literary conception of ‘courtly love’ was very widespread in Europe. Nobles, chevaliers & troubadours declared themselves the vassals of the lady, served & praised her in their poems, songs etc. Such a worship of a woman put  Divine elevation in its full sense on the first place, followed by a chance of a possible material pleasure.

There were some stages of ‘courtly love’:

  • Attraction to the lady, usually via eyes/glance
  • Worship of the lady from afar
  • Declaration of passionate devotion
  • Virtuous rejection by the lady
  • Renewed wooing with oaths of virtue and eternal fealty
  • Moans of approaching death from unsatisfied desire
  • Heroic deeds of valor which win the lady’s heart
  • Consummation of the secret love
  • Endless adventures and subterfuges avoiding detection

As we see they kept a man rather busy & added to the relationship an air of a special charm. If take into account the fact that ‘courtly love’ often meant platonic feeling, so uncommon to us in our hi-tech society, a woman should have felt a woman in the full sense of this word, and this amazing feeling of respect the knight of her heart gave to her spread the Divine Light of pure Love, so healing, joyful & wise.

That’s great that history keeps so many recordings that can save humanity from darkness & ignorance. There are so many wonderful pieces of troubadours’ art left! And they still excite hearts, for they pass us this purity & divinity of such a wonderful feeling that rules the world no matter epoch & time. And we, their descendants, have a chance to use all this heritage, transforming it under our hi-tech reality. Exactly as Bossa Nova creators (Joao Gilbeto, Tom Jobim & Vinicius de Moraes) did to praise the tender essence of a woman every day, anywhere, on any occasion. Love should remain courtois.  Then all its elevated vibrations, words, sighs will fill our Universe with the most wonderful music, music of Divine…

Maria KethuProfumo

  • Dictionaire par feu Messire Antoine de Furetiére (1690), Vol. I, p. 102.
  • Material for “stages of courtly love” – Wikipedia.

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8 Responses to Love Should Remain Courtois

  1. theburningheart says:

    Beautiful post about Love, and courtly love, Maria, I hate to tell you this, but you got to be careful now day, not to get too idealistic about love, in an age where there is little patience for Spiritual refinement, and great sensibility of manners.
    I have wrote something about the subject of courtly love, on my blog, as well.
    I am afraid we both belong to a different age, Maria, by the way Black Orpheus is one of my favorite movies, and I love Joao Gilbeto, Tom Jobim & Vinicius de Moraes I used to own the black Vinyl record of the movie. 🙂

    • kethuprofumo says:

      Thank you for your comment, dear Mr. Brigido. The main goal of this post is to awake people’s mind. For them to remember about the l’amour courtois, to get curious, to start pondering on that. It’s extremely important to re-construct this approach in our time.
      I know the Black Orhpeus. It’s one of my favourite movies too. It has a very strong plot & it’s an amazing interpretation of the myth.
      Bossa Nova is something completely esquisito! It’s as extraordinary as the tradition of the courtly love itself.

  2. L.R.@TheRink says:

    Hey Maria!
    This reminds me so much of the romance novels written in 1980’s… They were always kinda my favourite. You are absolutely right about informing the new gen about this love… but will I don’t know about how many will be keen on following it…Quite an interesting post!


    • kethuprofumo says:

      Thank you for your wonderful post! The opinion of the new gen is very precious for me. Well… the courtly love is an old & beautiful tradition. There is a lot of litterature on this account. If you want, I will send you a few links to get familiar with. And I believe that all good & kind will be acceptable & understood anywhere, in any culture & by any new gen. New gen must learn more alternatives! 🙂

  3. This is good timing I’m singing an 18th c shepherd boy who is trying to woo the young lady from the manor in my next opera scene.

    • kethuprofumo says:

      Great, dear Charlotte! I hope he will woo properly for a young lady to fall in love with him 🙂 Thank you for your wonderful comment & Happy 1st May!

  4. Aquileana says:

    Great post…. the characteristics of Courtois love are very well pointed out.
    When I studied this subject the title which was mentioned was “Le Roman de La Rose”, by Guillaume de Lorris and Jean de Meun . It is a beautiful poem, full of allegories. The “Rose” of the title is seen as the name of the lady, and as a symbol of women Likewise, the other characters’ names function both as regular names and as abstractions illustrating the various factors that are involved in a love affair. You made me want to read it again!. 😀 Thank you!. Wishing you the best! ⭐

    • kethuprofumo says:

      You’re welcome! Thank you for your comment! There is a good troubadour named Guillem de Cabestany. He has amazing poems! I do recommend him to you as well as the epic Chanson de Roland. No matter they touch little the love there, the spirit of Chevaliere is strong! And certainly our dear modern friends, Bossa Nova composers. Vinicius de Moraes’s poems pass the true spirit of l’amour courtois. All the best! 😉

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